Sunday, September 27, 2020

Our Latest Daily Routine

 Since starting homeschool this last month, we've gotten into a new flow. Not everyday goes like this, but this is what I shoot for most days. 

I try to go to sleep by around 10:00 pm the night before so that I can wake up around 6:30. The first thing I do when I wake up is open up the gospel library app on my phone and read scriptures for the day. Then I say prayers and get a balance bar. 

I'm ready to write between 6:45 and 7:00. I write for thirty minutes using a timer and if I have time, I try to edit for about 15 minutes (I am currently working on two projects, a new one that I need to write words for and one that's already written that I am editing). 

At 7:30, I go up and get the girls (they almost always wake up around 7:20 right now). I bring them downstairs and get them breakfast while I clear out the dishwasher. Then I make everyone some eggs and have breakfast while the girls finish eating. While I eat, I fill out what I'm going to eat on MyFitnessPal, write in my journal, and do my daily affirmations. 

When I'm finished eating, I get the girls going on their morning list (do their dishes, hug mom, get dressed, put away clothes, clean the table area). If I need to take a shower, I put on Mickey Mouse Clubhouse for Rylee while I shower and get dressed, otherwise, I just go and get ready for the day. 

When I'm ready, I do the girls' hair. Ashtyn likes to do her own hair, if she does her list fast enough. We try to be done with our morning stuff by 9:00 to start homeschool. 

We do homeschool from nine to noon. We start with a hymn, then move to read aloud. Then we do some table work (Parker does her letters while Ashtyn does her art lessons, and they do journals) and our homeschool activity. We finish with yoga and silent reading, as long as we have time. 

Then we have lunch. Ashtyn likes to make lunch for the girls, so she usually starts that a little before noon. I make myself lunch and help Ashtyn with whatever she needs. After lunch, Ashtyn practices piano with my help, and I try to go in the basement before or after lunch to exercise. 

At 1:00, I put Rylee down for her nap. What I do during naps depends on the day. On Monday, I go grocery shopping and I've recently started taking the older girls with me again. On Tuesdays, I take Ashtyn to her piano lesson. Wednesdays and Thursdays I get stuff done for writing or YouTube, or relax. 

During naps, the older girls usually go outside right now, as it's the prime time for nice weather. When Rylee wakes up, she loves to go out there with them. We usually play outside until dinner time. 

We eat dinner around 5:00 and then do family scriptures right after dinner. We usually spend from dinner until bedtime together as a family. Then we do bedtime at 8:30 and Ben and I spend time together until we go to bed around 10:00. 

On Fridays, we do reading and Ashtyn still practices piano, but we spend the rest of homeschool time doing chores. Then the girls can play with friends on Friday and Saturday.

Saturday mornings I clear out the dishwasher and post to my writing group, but then I just relax. I let the girls watch movies and play while I read, usually. Ben and I try to do our date night Saturday afternoon or evening, and the girls usually play with friends at least a little bit. 

Sunday mornings, Ben gets the girls and makes breakfast so I can stay in bed and plan out my week while having a little break. Then we talk with my mom and do church. Ben and I take turns going to church while the other one stays home with the girls right now. We try to do a church lesson at home with them, then in the evening we go to Ben's parents house for a family dinner. 

It has been a good flow, though I'm still trying to figure out how to get everything done that I want. I wonder if that will ever change though! 

Sunday, September 20, 2020

What I Would CHANGE about the PUBLIC SCHOOL System if I Could

 I am really passionate about homeschooling, but I understand that it is not the only good way to educate children and that there are many parents who don't even have the option of homeschooling or feel it's not best for their family. 

I know that public school isn't bad and I was formed (in a great way!) by many of my public school teachers and friends. There were many aspects of public school that I enjoyed and that served me well. There were just also parts of the system itself that were faulty. 

Here are some things I would change about the public school system if I were in charge. 

-I would make the school day shorter. I would probably do a half day for all grades, including high school. The opportunity cost of time is my biggest gripe with public school. Kids don't need to be sitting for 8 hours a day with a couple breaks that are twenty minutes. They need to spend most of their time up and moving. They need to spend time in free play, time reading, time being read to (which often happens in elementary school, but almost never happens in middle and high school despite the fact that the benefits are still very real to teenagers), and time pursuing their own interests. 

For younger grades, I'm thinking probably third grade and under, I would limit it to two or three hours.

They could come to school, learn, have an activity in the middle of the day to break up sitting down (we try to do this in our own homeschool), then have lunch. For those who can, they can then go home. For those who can't (because I know many parents work), the school could offer a free period for the rest of the time. This would be a time for the kids to pursue their own interests. They could do things like build forts outside, make things out of blocks or Perler beads, play with toys, or even play Minecraft (there is a lot of educational value in certain video games like Minecraft). Or maybe just read (that's what I would have been doing!). 

-I would eliminate 90% of worksheets and 100% of testing. Worksheets are often not the best way for kids to learn and can make kids who don't enjoy worksheets believe that they don't love learning. Worksheets are not bad and even in our homeschool, sometimes we use worksheets (or something similar). Sometimes kids even like them! But I would make it less a part of a daily school day. 

I would eliminate testing for several reasons. First, kids are then learning to a test instead of learning about what interests them, which is never as effective or as long lasting (do YOU remember the things you learned for tests?). It also puts a lot of pressure on teachers to teach to the test instead of teaching in the ways that they have found to work. 

But how would we know which kids were behind?? 

First, I take issue with that view of education in general. Kids learn different things at different times. Often, it's a question of their brain physically maturing enough to understand the concept. The focus should not be on what they are learning, but rather on the learning itself. As we focus on helping them learn at their own pace and in the way that is best for them, the child not only enjoys learning (and is therefore more self motivated to learn, but also wants to continue learning in the future when someone isn't right there trying to get them to learn), but they also learn how they individually learn best. 

Second, I see no reason why teacher evaluation of their progress (not a set place of where they are, but a trajectory of where they are headed and the good things they did that year) shouldn't be better than testing. Not only is this a way to help children make progress and keep learning without the pressure of needing to keep up with everyone, but it also teaches them to have a growth mindset and to set goals that better themselves (rather than trying to be "better" than others). 

This also helps kids who are talented in areas that public school currently doesn't value. Kids who are great at art but not as naturally talented at math don't have to feel stupid or hate math. They can work on math a little bit everyday and be proud of the progress they make there (without being compared to the math-inclined kids), AND they get to focus on their art and feel proud of their progress there. 

-I would eliminate homework for every grade and every subject, with the possible exception of high school math. High school math is the only grade where homework might make a difference for grades or knowledge. 

Homework has very little value for students. Studies have found that homework does not affect grades (when teachers don't assign grades) or long term retention of knowledge. Certain studies have found that homework can raise standardized testing scores slightly (which I would do away with anyway). 

Plus, homework has many drawbacks! Any parent who has had to help with homework knows that it can be a fight. Kids have just spent a bunch of time doing schoolwork at home, now they have to spend hours doing more schoolwork. This cuts into their time to relax and to focus on what they actually want to do. I got mostly good grades in school, because I was "good" at the public school things. BUT the bad grades I did get, I got because instead of doing homework, I was reading. I was punished for reading instead of doing more schoolwork after being in school for eight hours. Plus, studies have found that students NOT assigned homework show up at school each day more motivated and focused for the school day. 

There is also the drawback for students who come from families of lower socioeconomic status (who public school is supposed to benefit the most). Because they don't have family there (because of work or neglect or whatever it is) to help with homework, they often don't do it or don't do it right. Then their grades are lower, they are trying to catch up in class, and they feel "stupid" for not being at the same level as their classmates who have parents home to help with their homework. 

I honestly don't understand why public schools still assign homework. We have 130 years of studies on homework that literally all say the same thing--homework has almost no benefit (and arguably none), and many drawbacks. 

-I would change the way the budgets work. The budgets and the way money is handled with public school is a joke. Money is wasted and teachers get paid pennies. Part of the problem is that when money is allotted in a certain area, it is impossible to move that money somewhere else. So, if they have $50,000 for desks but their desks are fine, they can't just pay their teachers more with that money. It HAS to go to desks. So what happens is they buy new desks they didn't really need and the old desks are literally thrown away (I've seen it, and so has my brother, as custodians). 

There are other problems, but waste is a huge one. 

I am not an accountant. I also don't know the specifics of how the budget works. But I know that there are problems there and that changing it could really help teachers, and therefore the students, if we could streamline it. And there are people out there with the knowledge to do so. 

-I would lower the amount of students in public school. Yes, lower the amount of students, not increase the number of teachers. Increasing the number of teachers not only means we need to be putting aside money for more teachers, it also means we need place to spread out the classes and would require even more money.

But if we had less students in public school, but the budget for schools was the same, imagine what we could do! 

Because all of these changes sound good, but one underlying problem that keeps teachers from being able to do all of this is the student to teacher ratio. Teachers can't know each child's individual interests. They can't understand what each child is facing at home and the kind of support they need from the teacher (if the student has involved parents at home, the teacher is simply a support; if the child doesn't, they are going to need a lot more from the teacher). 

As teachers have less students (I think the max should be ten), they can know their students in a personal way. Students then have an adult who cares about them, showing up for them everyday no matter what their home life is for. They have someone cheering them on and helping them learn in a way that actually matters to them. How many dropouts would we have if students actually felt like they were learning things that they cared about? 

This would be a hard change to implement, because it would mean that families who didn't need public school would need to do something else (in many cases, that would mean homeschooling, as I know how expensive private schools can be). But imagine if the families that could were homeschooling and the amount of teachers stayed the same. The kids who really needed a safe place, an adult who cared, a hot meal, could get so much more benefit (and the kids who were homeschooled would get more benefit too). 

I know right now the way the system is set up, this wouldn't work. The school gets money based off of how many students they have. But I would change that. If I could, I would make it so that there was a teacher and classroom for every ten students enrolled in a school, and have only the students who really needed it attend. 


So those are the main changes I would make to the public school system. I think changes like that (not necessarily those ones, but moving in that direction) could make a big difference for the kids attending public school. 

What do you think of these changes? What changes would you make? 

Sunday, September 13, 2020

Finding Blessings in the Rain

 When it rains, it pours, right? The last few weeks have been hard for our family. We've experienced what feels like one trial after another. For this post today, I wanted to share one of those trials (our AC not working) and the blessings we saw from that small trial. 

Our furnace blow motor went out.

It went out when the temperatures were still in this high 90's. It was a long, drawn out thing. It went out, and Ben's dad took a piece to test. That night was hot, and no one got a lot of sleep. It was still 74 when we woke up (we usually sleep with it at 68). 

We were going to buy a general motor that we hoped would work, and also called the people it is under warranty with. They couldn't come until the next afternoon, so we decided to try to the motor. I was really hopeful that that would just fix it, and we were pretty sure we could get a refund from the warranty for it. I showed up at the store for it at 4:38 (I was picking up dinner at the same time), only to find out the place closes at 4:30. It was a bitter disappointment to me. 

That night, we actually managed to get the AC to turn on, so our house actually got down to 66. I didn't dare turn on the furnace though, in case we couldn't get the AC to turn on, so it was pretty chilly in the morning. The guy came that day to look at the motor, but they had to order it, so he changed a different part and left. 

That was Friday afternoon. He said to call on Monday if it went out again (since they aren't open on weekends). We hoped it would last us through the weekend, and it did! The AC made a strained noise, but it continued to turn on. We didn't hear back from the guy, but the AC continued to work, and the weather outside was warm but not hot. 

Then on Friday night, the hottest day that week, it stopped working again. It was also a long weekend. It was literally the worst day it could have gone out, which was really frustrating. 

Friday night, we managed to get it to turn on. Once we got it to turn on, usually it would run until it turned off, so we turned it down cold and let it run. Saturday night, we managed that as well. Both those was a big blessing, as we were all able to sleep well and the girls were able to sleep in their rooms (we were worried about them being upstairs if the house got too hot).

Sunday, we couldn't get it when we were putting the girls down. We ended up opening the windows and leaving the doors open to let the air pull through, until we went to bed (we didn't want the kids climbing up on the sill and falling out the window in the morning). We got the AC to turn on after we put them down, so I closed the windows and their doors. Unfortunately, it was the first night that the AC turned off before it reached the temperature. The motor was just going out all the way, so it turned off at like 72 degrees instead of 68. We opened the windows downstairs, but it was a rough night. It didn't really get any cooler until about one in the morning, and then it was pretty cold in the house in the morning. 

We kept it cool, because we knew it was going to be a hot day again (the high was over 90) and the cooler it started, the better. We never got the AC to work for more than a couple minutes on Monday. We called the guy first thing Monday morning and he answered despite it being a holiday, but he couldn't come until Tuesday. 

Monday night, we just endured the heat. We didn't want to open the window because it was really smoky outside and the air quality was terrible, and it was also a big storm that night. The next morning, it had reached 68 without us opening the windows because it was so cold outside. By the time I got the girls their breakfast, it was already 67, with the temperature outside being the low 40s. I was worried about how cold it would get, so I baked some muffins in the oven and made some chicken soup (you boil the chicken for 3 hours, so it heats up the house). It was cozy feeling and around 10 that morning, a guy came and replaced the motor for us. Now our AC finally works again! 

It was hard for a few reasons. It lasted a long time, took time as we tried to get the AC to turn on (sometimes Ben would try 20 times before we could get it), we lost sleep due to the heat, worried about the girls, and I hate cold mornings. It also had an emotional toll that made it hard to be responsible. 

There were many blessings we saw throughout though. No matter what our trials, there are always blessings! 

Ben's dad was willing to come look at at, test the part for us, and if we had gotten the original motor, he would have been willing to help Ben change out the engine. His willingness to help when we need it is a huge blessing in our lives. 

We were able to get the AC to turn on many times when it was still technically broken. That weekend could have been a lot worse if we hadn't been able to cool off the house those few nights it worked. 

Our parts were still under warranty. While we paid for the labor, what would have been an almost $500 job only cost us under $200. 

The morning that it was cold and stormy gave us a couple blessings. First, it gave us a special feeling as we left our normal routine to make the muffins and soup. The second thing is I had a different plan for dinner and wouldn't have made the muffins, but because I did those things, we were able to invite some family members over who have specific dietary restrictions right now, and the timing of that was wonderful. Our trials actually allowed us to serve others in a way I might not have thought of otherwise. 

Count your blessings. The blessings are always there, if you just remember to look for them. 

Sunday, September 6, 2020

Juggling Different Responsibilities

 Right now I'm trying to make a fairly tough decision, about what to continue to include in my life and what to leave behind. I currently feel as if I am trying to do too much, but it's hard to let go of anything. Today, I'm outlining the different things I am currently dividing my time between, to get it out of my head and onto paper. 

Full-Time Parenting 

This includes things like, spending time with the kids (including reading to them when they bring me a book and ask, or listen as they tell me about the picture they drew); making sure they have food, they get dressed, they clean up their messes, they play outside but don't leave our yard; help walk hem through their many disagreements during the day; help them get out things that they need help with; changing diapers, wiping bottoms, cleaning up accidents. Basically, if the kids need something, I am the in charge of it, especially while Ben is working. 

Running the House 

This includes meal planning, running errands, making meals, picking up the house, cleaning the house, laundry, balancing neighbor friends, planning our schedule, making sure we do family scriptures. Right now, this also includes teaching the kids how to do these things, which often takes longer than if I just did it myself but hopefully will begin to payoff with the kids taking on many of these responsibilities with me. 

Writing

I write for at least half an hour a day on whatever book I'm currently working on (this includes outlining, drafting, and editing). I also have times throughout the day when I brainstorm or do research. On Tuesdays, we have writing group. I submit 1500 words on Saturday, I try to read through the submissions on Monday and we meet for an hour on Tuesday. A less consistent part of writing is doing beta reading for certain people (who will then beta read for me). 

Homeschooling

Monday through Thursday from nine to noon and Friday morning before I do chores is devoted to homeschooling. I try to be present the whole time with the kids (no doing chores or on my phone or computer while I am with them). I plan out what we'll be doing that week and print/gather supplies for anything I will need on Sunday. 

Young Women Calling 

I am the Young Women secretary in our ward. We're starting to get things more back to normal, so my responsibilities are growing back to normal now. Those include attending young women's on Wednesday night, helping plan those activities, setting up and attending meetings, keeping notes at those meetings, keeping track of birthdays and getting candy and a card for each birthday. I am also often the one they ask to be in charge of certain projects, especially if it involves technology. 

YouTube

I have a YouTube channel talking about writing and reading. I teach writing craft and share my own reading and writing channel. This is what takes the most time and I'm considering dropping it. It's hard to do that, though, because I love doing YouTube and find it really fulfilling. 

My responsibilities here include planning what videos I'm doing, prepping for videos (takes about 2 hours a week), setting up to record and recording the videos (takes about 2 hours a week), editing the videos (takes 4-8 hours a week), creating and editing the thumbnails, uploading the videos, watching other YouTube channels and being part of the community (takes at least 30 minutes a day, often more). I have also recently been doing a weekly writing vlog, which requires some filming throughout each day and then editing those together during the weekend. 

Instagram

Connected to YouTube, but separate is my Instagram account. I take pictures (takes about 30 minutes each week), make a quote to share (takes about 10 minutes), post the pictures (takes about 5-10 minutes a day), and interact with others' posts (takes at least 30 minutes a day). 

Reading and Bullet Journal 

This is what I do for fun, or for myself. I have a bookish bullet journal that I love to create each year and then use the rest of the year. Creating it takes a lot of time each fall, but it's one of my favorite things to do. Then I keep up on tracking all the books I read, the writing I do, and everything I do with YouTube and Instagram. 

I also read a lot. I try to read between 10 and 12 books a month (minimum of 10, but maximum of 12). I love reading and often spend my free time on Saturday mornings reading for hours. One of the hardest things with YouTube is that I have less time to read. 

Spend Time with Family 

Dinner and the time after dinner is family time. Ben is done with work and we try to do something together, even if it's as simple as watching a movie together. Often, we go to the lake, the park, or to visit family. This is usually from 5 to 8, and then we put the kids down. After we put the kids down, sometimes I read, but often Ben and I try to spend some kid-free time together. We'll often talk and make ice cream or popcorn while Ben does the dishes. Sometimes we'll go for a walk around the dead end by our house or snuggle, but most often we find something to watch together while we eat our ice cream. We try to go to bed by 10:00 or 10:30. 

Be Healthy 

The other thing I try to do that I feel like I'm failing at is being healthy. I try to track my food and eat 40% carbs, 30% proteins, and 30% fats. I also try to make our own food (including things like ketchup and granola, so they have better ingredients), and right now I'm trying to make that a part of homeschool and having the girls help me. 

Exercise is the thing I'm failing at the most. I want to exercise for at least twenty minutes a day. I'd love to be doing weights in some way, and cardio. I also want to do 10 minutes of yoga with Ben (sometimes we're really good with this, other times we go long stretches without). 

This doesn't necessarily take a lot of time, it's just one more thing and sometimes falls to the wayside despite its importance.  


Those are the main things I have in my life to balance. I honestly would find it easier to balance everything if I cut YouTube out, which is why I'm considering it. It's really hard to give it up, though, because I do truly love it, which is why I haven't committed to stopping. 

What I'm planning to do is take a break from it this month and see how it goes. When I think of giving it up, I feel sick to my stomach about it. I don't know if I'm getting this feeling because it's the wrong decision, or because I am disappointed to leave it. I think taking the time off will give me better perspective in that area, and give me a break if I do go back to it.